I can do better than this...

Balancing college, job, sanity, relationship, and a social life. Overall, I guess I am doing okay..but individually,...I'm not so sure. I could put more effort into school, my job is good, sanity has been and always be unbalanced hahaha, I wish I could do more for my relationship, and my social life is slipping but eh, I've never been that 'faithful' of a friend. For my relationship, I wish I could just help. At least help. I can't find the balance between being controlling or just giving up. I feel I should encourage him, but I end up just telling him what I assume is best for him, or I get fed up, give up and just let him do whatever he wants to do without any comment from me, but I feel like that's not caring.  I want to push and support him to achieve his dream, but I guess all I do is push him. I don't know what to do. I want to be the reaching hand to pull him out of the tough times, but sometimes I feel like I'm dragging him, kicking and screaming, through a storm. Where does support stop and control start?