Parents are a unity not units.

My parents divorced when i was one and my mother's parents divorced when she was young. In both generations the children lived with their mother and had visitation with their fathers. My Grandma has told me stories of when she was struggling to put food on the table for herself and her four children and those children would come home from visitations with their dad and show off the mcdonalds trinkets to her saying "look what daddy got us!" all the while, making her feel 2 inches big.
I heard my brother scream that he hated my mom and wish he were with his dad growing up and i myself had the feelings that i had to always choose between the 2 parents.

Never will my child have to choose between their parents. my husband will realize beforehand that marriage is for a lifetime and i wont accept divorce. I will be treated right as a woman should and i will care for him as a man should be cared for but we will be seen as an unity from our kids. Not as mom or dad but 'my parents.' together.